“Actions speak louder than words,” a phrase ingrained in me since childhood, has seamlessly transitioned into my Al‑Anon program, emphasizing the importance of moving beyond mere talk and embracing the opportunity to walk the walk. As I think about speaking in Al‑Anon, I realize it is more than just articulating words—speaking is about embodying the principles of the program, trusting in a Higher Power, and connecting with others on a deeper level.
Reflecting on my first real public speaking experience in high school, I recall my principal encouraging me to handwrite my graduation speech double-spaced in a composition book and coaching me on the importance of speaking slowly and purposefully. This lesson resurfaced when I presented as World Service Office Staff at the World Service Conference for the first time. Amid the excitement, I lost myself in the moment, speed-reading from my script into the microphone until a colleague’s gentle whisper to “slow down” brought me back to reality. It was a humbling moment—a reminder of the importance of staying grounded.
Once, as a District Representative, I was invited to speak at an anniversary meeting for a group I typically did not attend. The room was full, and I recognized many of the members in attendance. While sharing my story, a personal detail popped out—a “secret” I usually kept to myself. When I had shared this secret before in other circumstances, it often led to surprise, confusion, and misunderstanding. For that reason, and because it was an outside issue, I had never discussed it in Al‑Anon before. When I did, I was relieved to have many members approach me after the meeting and express appreciation for my honesty, as they too had similar experiences and found it relatable.
As I continue my journey of recovery through service, I am grateful for fellow members, including my Sponsor, and service tools such as the Members Interested in Speaking Guideline (G-1), the public outreach service pamphlet Attracting and Cooperating (S-40), and the 2022–2025 Al‑Anon/Alateen Service Manual (P-24/27), all of which provide invaluable guidance as I navigate the complexities of carrying the message and putting Step Twelve into action. By speaking our stories and experiences, we not only find healing for ourselves but also provide hope and help to those who may be struggling.
By Heather S., Associate Director—Community Relations
The Forum, August 2024
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