{"id":4452,"date":"2016-11-28T16:36:22","date_gmt":"2016-11-28T22:36:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/al-anon.idevdesign.net\/?p=4452\/"},"modified":"2017-07-27T13:23:25","modified_gmt":"2017-07-27T17:23:25","slug":"je-merite-detre-heureuse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/je-merite-detre-heureuse\/","title":{"rendered":"Je m\u00e9rite d\u2019\u00eatre heureuse"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Quand je suis arriv\u00e9e \u00e0 Al\u2011Anon, j\u2019\u00e9tais une femme en col\u00e8re, j\u2019\u00e9prouvais du ressentiment, et j\u2019\u00e9tais r\u00e9serv\u00e9e. J\u2019avais \u00e9cart\u00e9 mes parents, mes fr\u00e8res et mes s\u0153urs de ma vie parce que je ne voulais pas qu\u2019ils sachent ce qui se passait. J\u2019ai toujours pens\u00e9 que la consommation d\u2019alcool cesserait et que personne n\u2019aurait \u00e0 savoir ce qui se passait chez nous. Bien s\u00fbr, je ne trompais personne. Enfin, ma s\u0153ur, qui fr\u00e9quentait d\u00e9j\u00e0 Al\u2011Anon depuis plusieurs ann\u00e9es, m\u2019a demand\u00e9 si la consommation d\u2019alcool de mon conjoint me d\u00e9rangeait. J\u2019ai r\u00e9pondu par l\u2019affirmative. \u00ab\u00a0Alors Al\u2011Anon est pour toi!\u00a0\u00bb m\u2019a-t-elle dit\u2026 Je suis all\u00e9e \u00e0 ma premi\u00e8re r\u00e9union.<\/p>\n<p>Apr\u00e8s plusieurs ann\u00e9es de r\u00e9unions Al\u2011Anon, de lecture de la documentation, d\u2019interaction avec ma Marraine et de mise en pratique des \u00c9tapes et des Traditions dans ma vie personnelle, j\u2019ai appris \u00e0 vivre avec l\u2019alcoolisme en phase active avec un peu de paix et de s\u00e9r\u00e9nit\u00e9. J\u2019\u00e9tais malheureuse dans mon mariage, mais je pensais n\u2019avoir d\u2019autre choix que de rester mari\u00e9e. J\u2019avais \u00e9t\u00e9 t\u00e9moin de l\u2019effet que la rupture du mariage de mes trois s\u0153urs avait eu sur mes parents. Je ne voulais pas leur faire revivre cette situation. J\u2019avais peur de vivre seule et d\u2019\u00eatre responsable de moi-m\u00eame et de mes frais de vie courante.<\/p>\n<p>Entre-temps, la sant\u00e9 de mon p\u00e8re s\u2019\u00e9tait d\u00e9t\u00e9rior\u00e9e. Un matin, ma m\u00e8re m\u2019a appel\u00e9 pour me dire qu\u2019il avait \u00e9t\u00e9 transport\u00e9 aux urgences. Elle nous a demand\u00e9, \u00e0 mes fr\u00e8res et s\u0153urs et \u00e0 moi-m\u00eame, de venir \u00e0 l\u2019h\u00f4pital, car il semblait qu\u2019il \u00e9tait sur le point de mourir. L\u2019un apr\u00e8s l\u2019autre, nous sommes donc all\u00e9s lui faire nos adieux.<\/p>\n<p>Quand je suis entr\u00e9e, il \u00e9tait \u00e0 peine conscient et un masque \u00e0 oxyg\u00e8ne couvrait son visage. Je lui ai pris la main, lui dis que je l\u2019aimais, qu\u2019il pouvait cesser de lutter, de prendre un grand souffle, et de l\u00e2cher prise. Il n\u2019a rien pu faire d\u2019autre que de me serrer la main. Ma m\u00e8re a du parler \u00e0 sa place et m\u2019a dit qu\u2019il s\u2019inqui\u00e9tait pour moi et voulait simplement que je sois heureuse. C\u2019est \u00e0 ce moment-l\u00e0 que j\u2019ai r\u00e9alis\u00e9 que je croyais prot\u00e9ger mes parents, mais au contraire, me voir rester dans un mariage malheureux leur faisait de la peine. C\u2019\u00e9tait comme si, avant de d\u00e9c\u00e9der, mon p\u00e8re m\u2019avait autoris\u00e9 \u00e0 mettre fin \u00e0 mon mariage.<\/p>\n<p>J\u2019\u00e9tais pr\u00eate pour le changement. Quelques mois plus tard, j\u2019ai dit \u00e0 mon mari que je voulais divorcer. Je voulais mettre fin \u00e0 mon mariage sans le blesser, mais j\u2019ai r\u00e9alis\u00e9 qu\u2019apr\u00e8s 25 ans de mariage, il allait y avoir une certaine dose de souffrance. Avec le soutien de mes amis Al\u2011Anon et de ma famille, j\u2019ai pers\u00e9v\u00e9r\u00e9 malgr\u00e9 cette souffrance, j\u2019ai fait le deuil de mon mariage et j\u2019ai surv\u00e9cu sans trop ressentir de chagrin.<\/p>\n<p>Dans Al\u2011Anon, j\u2019ai appris que j\u2019avais des choix et que je m\u00e9ritais d\u2019\u00eatre heureuse. J\u2019ai appris \u00e0 \u00eatre ind\u00e9pendante et \u00e0 me faire entendre. J\u2019ai appris qu\u2019avec ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure \u00e0 mes c\u00f4t\u00e9s, je pouvais faire face \u00e0 mes peurs. J\u2019ai appris \u00e0 \u00eatre ouverte et dispos\u00e9e \u00e0 accepter la volont\u00e9 de Dieu \u00e0 mon \u00e9gard et \u00e0 remettre mon p\u00e8re aux soins de Dieu. Gr\u00e2ce \u00e0 Al\u2011Anon, j\u2019ai rencontr\u00e9 et \u00e9pous\u00e9 mon deuxi\u00e8me \u00e9poux. Celui-ci est un alcoolique en r\u00e9tablissement et fait partie des Alcooliques Anonymes. Travailler ensemble sur nos programmes respectifs \u00e0 la maison est une chose merveilleuse.<\/p>\n<p>Parfois, je vois les cons\u00e9quences qu\u2019une enfance dans le contexte de l\u2019alcoolisme a sur mes enfants. Deux d\u2019entre eux ont assist\u00e9 aux r\u00e9unions Alateen et Al\u2011Anon il y a plusieurs ann\u00e9es de cela. M\u00eame si je le veux, je sais que je ne peux pas r\u00e9soudre leurs probl\u00e8mes. Il m\u2019arrive de citer un slogan qui pourrait \u00eatre utile, et je leur dis toujours que je me ferais un plaisir de les emmener \u00e0 une r\u00e9union s\u2019ils d\u00e9cident qu\u2019ils en ont besoin. Il y a quelques ann\u00e9es de cela, mon premier mari est d\u00e9c\u00e9d\u00e9 en raison de complications de son alcoolisme. J\u2019ai pu pleurer et offrir du soutien \u00e0 mes enfants qui venaient de perdre leur p\u00e8re.<\/p>\n<p>Je remercie Dieu d\u2019avoir mis cet alcoolique dans ma vie et de m\u2019avoir amen\u00e9 \u00e0 Al\u2011Anon. Je suis reconnaissante pour tous les merveilleux cadeaux que j\u2019ai re\u00e7us en mettant quotidiennement ce programme en pratique dans tous les domaines de ma vie.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Marilyn K., Ontario<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum, novembre 2016<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":36,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[220,225],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4452","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mon-compagnonma-compagne-alcoolique","category-mon-conjointma-conjointe-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.1 - 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