{"id":4367,"date":"2016-10-27T15:00:32","date_gmt":"2016-10-27T20:00:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/al-anon.idevdesign.net\/?p=4367\/"},"modified":"2017-07-27T13:30:28","modified_gmt":"2017-07-27T17:30:28","slug":"je-peux-aimer-ma-fille-sans-essayer-de-gerer-sa-vie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/je-peux-aimer-ma-fille-sans-essayer-de-gerer-sa-vie\/","title":{"rendered":"Je peux aimer ma fille sans essayer de g\u00e9rer sa vie"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Ayant grandi dans un foyer affect\u00e9 par l\u2019alcoolisme, j\u2019ai appris \u00e0 r\u00e9soudre les probl\u00e8mes \u00e0 un tr\u00e8s jeune \u00e2ge. Quand j\u2019avais douze ans, l\u2019alcoolique dans notre famille est d\u00e9c\u00e9d\u00e9 et, comme j\u2019\u00e9tais l\u2019a\u00een\u00e9, je suis devenu \u00ab\u00a0l\u2019homme de la famille\u00a0\u00bb. Le fardeau que repr\u00e9sentait cette responsabilit\u00e9 a \u00e9t\u00e9 le catalyseur de mon d\u00e9sir de constamment d\u00e9passer mes objectifs, chose qui m\u2019a bien servi lorsque j\u2019\u00e9tais jeune, mais est devenu un probl\u00e8me quand je suis devenu p\u00e8re d\u2019une adolescente alcoolique.<\/p>\n<p>En fonction de nos moyens, nous avons essay\u00e9 tous les programmes de lutte contre la drogue, l\u2019alcool et les troubles du comportement alimentaire de l\u2019\u00e2ge de 15 ans, jusqu\u2019\u00e0 ce qu\u2019elle atteigne l\u2019\u00e2ge de 30 ans. Certains de ces programmes \u00e9taient bas\u00e9s sur les douze \u00e9tapes; d\u2019autres non. Il y avait des \u00e9tablissements de confinement, des foyers d\u2019h\u00e9bergements, des th\u00e9rapies d\u2019hospitalisation et des th\u00e9rapies de traitement externe, des pavillons de plain-pied pour la r\u00e9habilitation et des programmes au grand air dans divers coins du pays. Je consid\u00e9rais que j\u2019\u00e9tais assez d\u00e9brouillard pour r\u00e9soudre mes probl\u00e8mes et j\u2019\u00e9tais convaincu que ce n\u2019\u00e9tait qu\u2019une question de temps avant que nous trouvions une solution au probl\u00e8me de ma fille.<\/p>\n<p>Quinze ann\u00e9es et des milliers de dollars plus tard, nous n\u2019\u00e9tions pas plus avanc\u00e9s vers la gu\u00e9rison de ma fille qu\u2019au d\u00e9but. Cette derni\u00e8re \u00e9tait devenue mon obsession quotidienne. La qualit\u00e9 de ma vie d\u00e9pendait enti\u00e8rement de la qualit\u00e9 de la sienne. \u00c9tait-elle dans une situation de crise cette semaine, ou \u00e9tait-elle en s\u00e9curit\u00e9? \u00c9tait-elle dans un h\u00f4pital psychiatrique, en prison, ou allait-elle bien \u2013 temporairement? La souffrance que repr\u00e9sentait le fait de vivre la vie de ma fille \u00e0 sa place a fini par devenir un fardeau trop lourd \u00e0 porter\u2026 Aussi, j\u2019ai commenc\u00e9 la th\u00e9rapie et les r\u00e9unions Al-Anon.<\/p>\n<p>Une journ\u00e9e d\u2019hiver, alors que j\u2019\u00e9tais en voyage d\u2019affaires, je me suis arr\u00eat\u00e9 \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9glise pour dire une pri\u00e8re. Agenouill\u00e9, j\u2019ai r\u00e9alis\u00e9 que notre fille avait \u00e9t\u00e9 le cadeau d\u2019une Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure, et que maintenant, je devais l\u00e2cher prise sur ce cadeau si je voulais conna\u00eetre la paix. Les larmes, ruisselant le long de mon visage, j\u2019ai enti\u00e8rement abandonn\u00e9 la vie de mon enfant aux soins d\u2019une Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure.<\/p>\n<p>Un sentiment intense de soulagement m\u2019a envahi et c\u2019\u00e9tait comme si le lourd fardeau que j\u2019avais port\u00e9 pendant toutes ces ann\u00e9es avait \u00e9t\u00e9 \u00e9limin\u00e9. Je n\u2019\u00e9tais plus tenu de r\u00e9soudre tous les probl\u00e8mes. Je pouvais aimer ma fille sans essayer de g\u00e9rer sa vie. Je n\u2019\u00e9tais plus tenu d\u2019\u00eatre comp\u00e9tent dans tous les domaines et j\u2019avais la permission de prendre soin de moi-m\u00eame avant de prendre soin des autres. Plus important encore, j\u2019ai compris qu\u2019il \u00e9tait acceptable de demander de l\u2019aide et de ressentir des moments de d\u00e9sespoir.<\/p>\n<p>Ces r\u00e9alisations \u00e9taient des le\u00e7ons importantes que j\u2019avais manqu\u00e9es en grandissant. Aussi, \u00e9couter les t\u00e9moignages d\u2019exp\u00e9rience, de sagesse et d\u2019espoir d\u2019autres membres Al-Anon m\u2019avait pr\u00e9par\u00e9 \u00e0 \u00eatre r\u00e9ceptif au moment opportun.<\/p>\n<p>Aujourd\u2019hui, ma fille continue de lutter avec ses d\u00e9pendances, mais je suis consciente qu\u2019elle a sa propre Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure et que lui permettre de tirer une le\u00e7on de ses erreurs est sa seule fa\u00e7on de progresser et de tirer des bienfaits de cette exp\u00e9rience, laquelle est la meilleure fa\u00e7on d\u2019apprendre. Je lui dis que je l\u2019aime, mais autrement, je ne m\u00eale pas de ses affaires. Par-dessus tout, je ch\u00e9ris la relation que j\u2019ai avec mon autre fille (laquelle \u00e9tait devenue ma seconde priorit\u00e9 pendant trop longtemps) et mes petits-enfants (lesquels sont une v\u00e9ritable b\u00e9n\u00e9diction). J\u2019en suis venu \u00e0 conna\u00eetre la paix et l\u2019acceptation et pour cela, je suis \u00e9norm\u00e9ment reconnaissant.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Joe McC., Californie<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum, octobre 2016<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":36,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[222],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4367","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mon-enfant-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.4 - 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