{"id":42531,"date":"2024-06-20T15:36:30","date_gmt":"2024-06-20T19:36:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/?p=42531"},"modified":"2024-06-20T15:37:54","modified_gmt":"2024-06-20T19:37:54","slug":"lart-detre-un-parent-plus-equilibre-commence-par-moi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/lart-detre-un-parent-plus-equilibre-commence-par-moi\/","title":{"rendered":"L&rsquo;art d&rsquo;\u00eatre un parent plus \u00e9quilibr\u00e9 commence par moi!"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Lorsque j&rsquo;ai rejoint Al-Anon pour la premi\u00e8re fois, le slogan que \u00ab\u00a0\u00e7a commence par moi\u00a0\u00bb m&rsquo;a interpell\u00e9e. J&rsquo;avais l&rsquo;impression que ces mots pr\u00e9cis, dans cet ordre pr\u00e9cis, \u00e9taient l&rsquo;essence m\u00eame de ce qui m&rsquo;avait amen\u00e9e \u00e0 ma premi\u00e8re r\u00e9union.<\/p>\n<p>Un souvenir me revient tr\u00e8s clairement. J&rsquo;\u00e9tais au milieu de la cuisine en train de parler \u00e0 ma fille adolescente. Je savais qu&rsquo;elle m&rsquo;en voulait pour quelque chose, et cette id\u00e9e me mettait tellement mal \u00e0 l&rsquo;aise que je lui ai demand\u00e9 avec insistance si elle m&rsquo;en voulait. Son visage s&rsquo;est adouci et elle a commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 s&rsquo;excuser.<\/p>\n<p>Avant m\u00eame qu&rsquo;elle ait pu terminer, j&rsquo;ai eu l&rsquo;impression d&rsquo;\u00eatre \u00e0 l&rsquo;ext\u00e9rieur de mon propre corps, en train de regarder l&rsquo;interaction se d\u00e9rouler. Imm\u00e9diatement, j&rsquo;ai repens\u00e9 \u00e0 mon enfance surresponsabilis\u00e9e. Je me suis vue incapable d&rsquo;\u00e9prouver mes propres \u00e9motions, me souciant uniquement de celles de ma m\u00e8re alcoolique. J&rsquo;ai r\u00e9alis\u00e9 que je n&rsquo;\u00e9tais pas plus responsable des sentiments de ma m\u00e8re \u00e0 l&rsquo;\u00e9poque que ma fille ne l&rsquo;\u00e9tait des miens aujourd&rsquo;hui.<\/p>\n<p>Elle m\u00e9rite de ressentir ses \u00e9motions et d&rsquo;\u00eatre valid\u00e9e pour celles-ci. En tant que m\u00e8re, j&rsquo;ai la responsabilit\u00e9 de comprendre pourquoi sa frustration \u00e0 mon \u00e9gard ou son m\u00e9contentement face \u00e0 mes choix me mettent mal \u00e0 l&rsquo;aise. En acceptant cette responsabilit\u00e9, je peux permettre au traumatisme g\u00e9n\u00e9rationnel de prendre fin avec moi.<\/p>\n<p>En rempla\u00e7ant les strat\u00e9gies parentales inadapt\u00e9es qui m&rsquo;ont \u00e9t\u00e9 inculqu\u00e9es par les principes du programme et les conseils de ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure, je choisis que \u00ab\u00a0\u00e7a commence par moi\u00a0\u00bb. Je peux laisser la g\u00e9n\u00e9ration de parents de ma fille commencer avec moi. Ce ne sera jamais parfait, mais lorsque je fais le choix chaque jour de chercher des conseils aupr\u00e8s de mon programme Al-Anon et de ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure, ce n&rsquo;est pas n\u00e9cessaire.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Hope W.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum, <\/em>juin 2024<\/p>\n<p><em>\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Cet article peut \u00eatre reproduit sur le site Web de votre corps de service ou dans votre bulletin de nouvelles en pr\u00e9cisant\u00a0: Permission accord\u00e9e par la revue <em>The Forum<\/em>, Al\u2011Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, Virginie, \u00c9tats-Unis.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":37,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[347,221],"tags":[591,807,433,445],"class_list":["post-42531","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-le-lien","category-mon-perema-mere-alcoolique","tag-changements-dattitude","tag-comment-puis-je-aider-mes-enfants","tag-enfants-adultes","tag-premiere-reunion-al-anon"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>L&#039;art d&#039;\u00eatre un parent plus \u00e9quilibr\u00e9 commence par moi! 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