{"id":41965,"date":"2024-04-18T12:48:38","date_gmt":"2024-04-18T16:48:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/?p=41965"},"modified":"2024-04-29T12:54:18","modified_gmt":"2024-04-29T16:54:18","slug":"faire-tomber-le-masque-de-la-victimisation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/faire-tomber-le-masque-de-la-victimisation\/","title":{"rendered":"Faire tomber le masque de la victimisation"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>La violence psychologique, physique et sexuelle que mon beau-p\u00e8re alcoolique m\u2019a fait subir dans mon enfance est une bo\u00eete de Pandore que je ne veux jamais ouvrir. Cependant, \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e2ge adulte, j\u2019ai continu\u00e9 \u00e0 rencontrer des gens qui m\u2019infligeaient de la violence. Je me sentais comme \u00ab\u00a0marqu\u00e9e\u00a0\u00bb. Qu\u2019est-ce que ces pr\u00e9dateurs voyaient en moi et comment pouvais-je faire dispara\u00eetre cette marque? \u00c9tait-ce la honte et la culpabilit\u00e9 qui les attiraient? Avais-je l\u2019air trop vuln\u00e9rable? Ou \u00e9tais-je sujette \u00e0 un comportement \u00e0 risque \u00e9lev\u00e9?<\/p>\n<p>\u00c0 l\u2019aide des outils du programme Al\u2011Anon, j\u2019ai fait l\u2019inventaire de mes d\u00e9ficiences, et ce que j\u2019ai vu a chang\u00e9 ma vie. J\u2019ai appris le principe des limites. Par la suite, j\u2019ai appris la diff\u00e9rence entre r\u00e9agir constamment au comportement de quelqu\u2019un d\u2019autre et choisir de faire ce qui \u00e9tait le mieux pour moi. Devenir autonome a transform\u00e9 mon caract\u00e8re n\u00e9cessiteux en une force que je n\u2019avais jamais ressentie auparavant. J\u2019ai commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 attirer diff\u00e9rentes personnes dans ma vie \u2013 des gens gentils et doux qui se contentaient de vivre et de laisser vivre.<\/p>\n<p>Gr\u00e2ce aux <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/fr\/pour-les-membres\/les-heritages\/les-douze-concepts-de-service\/\">Concepts de Service<\/a> d\u2019Al\u2011Anon, j\u2019ai appris \u00e0 me lib\u00e9rer de la honte et de la culpabilit\u00e9 en comprenant et en acceptant la responsabilit\u00e9. Ma honte r\u00e9sultait simplement de toutes les fois o\u00f9 je m\u2019\u00e9tais sentie inf\u00e9rieure ou pas assez bonne. Ma culpabilit\u00e9 semblait \u00eatre le r\u00e9sultat des attentes irr\u00e9alistes que j\u2019avais de moi-m\u00eame. \u00c0 maintes reprises, j\u2019ai humblement demand\u00e9 \u00e0 ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure de faire dispara\u00eetre ces caract\u00e9ristiques jusqu\u2019\u00e0 ce qu\u2019elles ne fassent plus partie de ma psych\u00e9.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c0 ce moment, j\u2019\u00e9tais pr\u00eate \u00e0 faire tomber le masque de la victimisation. J\u2019ai rebaptis\u00e9 mes exp\u00e9riences d\u2019enfance pour ne plus me sentir comme une victime. J\u2019ai vu le dysfonctionnement dans mon \u00e9ducation, mais je savais que ce n\u2019\u00e9tait pas qui j\u2019\u00e9tais en soi. J\u2019ai accept\u00e9 mon pass\u00e9, et ce, m\u00eame si je ne l\u2019approuvais pas. J\u2019ai remis ma vie \u00e0 une Puissance sup\u00e9rieure \u00e0 moi-m\u00eame et je me suis assise plusieurs fois dans l\u2019inconfort jusqu\u2019\u00e0 ce qu\u2019il passe. J\u2019ai reconnu la ferveur, le drame ou les familiarit\u00e9s qui pouvaient nuire \u00e0 ma s\u00e9r\u00e9nit\u00e9, et j\u2019ai \u00e9vit\u00e9 ces situations.<\/p>\n<p>Aujourd\u2019hui, avec les cadeaux du programme Al\u2011Anon, je suis reconnaissante, joyeuse et en paix. Aujourd\u2019hui, je m\u2019estime chanceuse.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Michelle M., Australie<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum, <\/em>mars 2024<\/p>\n<p><strong>Cet article peut \u00eatre reproduit sur le site Web de votre corps de service ou dans votre bulletin de nouvelles en pr\u00e9cisant\u00a0: Permission accord\u00e9e par la revue\u00a0<em>The Forum<\/em>, Al\u2011Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, Virginie, \u00c9tats-Unis.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":37,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[347,221],"tags":[431,591,515,433,600,601,602],"class_list":["post-41965","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-le-lien","category-mon-perema-mere-alcoolique","tag-abus","tag-changements-dattitude","tag-culpabilite","tag-enfants-adultes","tag-estime-de-soi","tag-honte","tag-limites-fr"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - 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