{"id":39531,"date":"2023-06-20T17:09:28","date_gmt":"2023-06-20T21:09:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/?p=39531"},"modified":"2023-06-20T17:09:28","modified_gmt":"2023-06-20T21:09:28","slug":"quelques-reflexions-sur-laide","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/quelques-reflexions-sur-laide\/","title":{"rendered":"Quelques r\u00e9flexions sur \u00ab l\u2019aide \u00bb"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Al\u2011Anon m\u2019a sauv\u00e9 la vie. Je crois sinc\u00e8rement que si je n\u2019avais pas trouv\u00e9 ce programme, je serais morte. Pourtant, je suis ici, capable de trouver le bonheur et la joie, m\u00eame si les circonstances de ma vie ne sont pas parfaites. Le programme s\u2019est vraiment mis en branle dans mon cas lorsque j\u2019ai senti que je n\u2019avais pas d\u2019autre choix que de mettre mon fils mineur \u00e0 la porte. C\u2019\u00e9tait l\u2019une des choses les plus douloureuses que j\u2019ai eu \u00e0 faire, mais le laisser vivre chez nous \u00e9tait encore plus douloureux. Pour m\u2019aider \u00e0 traverser les moments difficiles, je m\u00e9ditais souvent sur les id\u00e9es suivantes\u2026<\/p>\n<p><em>Cette situation lui arrive \u00e0 lui, pas \u00e0 moi<\/em>. Comme j\u2019\u00e9tais compatissante! Je m\u2019imaginais mon pauvre fils \u2013 il devait \u00eatre vraiment affam\u00e9, avoir froid et se sentir seul, triste et fatigu\u00e9. J\u2019\u00e9tais afflig\u00e9e par une douleur imagin\u00e9e, comme si j\u2019\u00e9tais \u00e0 sa place, mais au contraire, mon fils vivait sa vie. \u00c0 Al\u2011Anon, j\u2019ai appris \u00e0 vivre pleinement <em>ma<\/em> vie et \u00e0 ne pas projeter mon imagination d\u00e9bordante sur ce que je pensais qu\u2019il \u00e9tait en train de traverser.<\/p>\n<p><em>Pour moi, \u00ab\u00a0l\u2019aider\u00a0\u00bb voulait dire ne pas l\u2019aider<\/em>. Quand je faisais la charit\u00e9 \u00e0 mon fils, je ne faisais que prolonger sa maladie. En fait, je voulais simplement me sentir mieux, et bien que je ressentais un soulagement temporaire, je finissais par regretter mes offres d\u2019aide. De plus, chaque fois que je le sauvais, je lui faisais croire que quelqu\u2019un serait toujours l\u00e0 pour s\u2019occuper de lui. J\u2019ai d\u00fb apprendre \u00e0 dire non chaque fois qu\u2019il demandait quelque chose.<\/p>\n<p><em>Que ferait-il si j\u2019\u00e9tais morte?<\/em> Quand je me sentais oblig\u00e9e de l\u2019aider, je m\u00e9ditais sur cette id\u00e9e. C\u2019\u00e9tait une bonne fa\u00e7on de me rappeler de pratiquer le d\u00e9tachement avec amour. Si je choisissais de lui acheter un repas ou de payer sa coupe de cheveux, je pouvais prendre le temps dont j\u2019avais besoin pour y r\u00e9fl\u00e9chir et ne pas r\u00e9agir.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c0 Al\u2011Anon, j\u2019ai d\u00e9couvert de nombreux outils sur lesquels je peux compter pour m\u2019aider \u00e0 traverser les p\u00e9riodes difficiles. Si je pense \u00e0 donner quelque chose \u00e0 l\u2019alcoolique ou \u00e0 l\u2019aider d\u2019une mani\u00e8re quelconque, je fais appel \u00e0 la sagesse de ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure avant de prendre ma d\u00e9cision. Je peux toujours le faire le lendemain.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Ellen S., Oregon<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum, <\/em>mai 2023<\/p>\n<p><strong>Cet article peut \u00eatre reproduit sur le site Web de votre corps de service ou dans votre bulletin de nouvelles en pr\u00e9cisant\u00a0: Permission accord\u00e9e par la revue <em>The Forum<\/em>, Al\u2011Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":37,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[347,222],"tags":[527],"class_list":["post-39531","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-le-lien","category-mon-enfant-alcoolique","tag-detachment-fr"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.4 - 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