{"id":35772,"date":"2022-03-02T10:01:43","date_gmt":"2022-03-02T15:01:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/?p=35772"},"modified":"2022-03-02T10:01:48","modified_gmt":"2022-03-02T15:01:48","slug":"le-pardon-cest-pour-moi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/le-pardon-cest-pour-moi\/","title":{"rendered":"Le pardon, c\u2019est pour moi"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\" style=\"--awb-text-transform:none;\"><p>J\u2019ai une famille que j\u2019aime, mais elle n\u2019a pas toujours \u00e9t\u00e9 heureuse. Toute ma vie, j\u2019ai cherch\u00e9 \u00e0 obtenir l\u2019amour et la reconnaissance de ma m\u00e8re, mais sans grand succ\u00e8s. J\u2019ai essay\u00e9 encore et encore, mais seulement pour \u00eatre mise dans l\u2019embarras, rejet\u00e9e, r\u00e9primand\u00e9e ou pouss\u00e9e \u00e0 me sentir coupable. \u00c0 chaque fois, je partais en me sentant bless\u00e9e et parfois en col\u00e8re, ce qui ne faisait que masquer la douleur. Je me demandais\u00a0: \u00ab\u00a0Pourquoi fait-elle cela? Qu\u2019ai-je fait pour m\u00e9riter cela? Quand me dira-t-elle que je suis une fille adorable, qui en vaut la peine, et qu\u2019elle est fi\u00e8re de moi?\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n<p>Je suis rest\u00e9e bloqu\u00e9e dans cet \u00e9tat pendant de nombreuses ann\u00e9es \u2013 une victime perp\u00e9tuelle. J\u2019ai suivi une th\u00e9rapie, j\u2019en ai discut\u00e9 avec mon partenaire, j\u2019ai tenu un journal \u00e0 ce sujet et j\u2019ai essay\u00e9 toutes sortes de strat\u00e9gies pour gagner la faveur de ma m\u00e8re. Bien que ces choses m\u2019aient quelque peu aid\u00e9e, ce qui m\u2019a vraiment aid\u00e9e \u00e0 trouver la libert\u00e9, c\u2019est le pardon.<\/p>\n<p>Dans Al-Anon, j\u2019ai appris \u00e0 avoir de la compassion pour l\u2019alcoolique, \u00e0 s\u00e9parer la personne de son comportement et \u00e0 lui pardonner. J\u2019ai d\u00e9couvert que le pardon n\u2019est pas un acte magnanime qui permet aux autres de s\u2019en sortir compl\u00e8tement indemnes. C\u2019est un acte qui <em>me<\/em> concerne et qui est <em>pour moi<\/em>! D\u2019une part, je n\u2019ai pas \u00e0 juger les autres \u2013 l\u2019alcoolique, ma m\u00e8re ou qui que ce soit. D\u2019autre part, lorsque j\u2019ai de la compassion et que je trouve la volont\u00e9 d\u2019aimer les autres malgr\u00e9 leurs comportements, je fais de la place pour envisager le pardon. Enfin, lorsque je pardonne, je l\u00e2che prise.<\/p>\n<p>En pardonnant, je reprends ma vie en main! Le pardon me donne la paix, le calme et la s\u00e9r\u00e9nit\u00e9. Il me donne du temps et de l\u2019\u00e9nergie \u00e0 consacrer \u00e0 la douceur de vivre au lieu de me plaindre et d\u2019entretenir des ranc\u0153urs. Il me donne une ouverture par laquelle je peux aimer ma m\u00e8re malgr\u00e9 toutes les blessures que j\u2019ai subies.<\/p>\n<p>Alors que ma m\u00e8re vieillit, je trouve le moyen de l\u2019aimer inconditionnellement. Pour \u00eatre honn\u00eate, je reviens parfois \u00e0 mon ancienne fa\u00e7on de penser, mais aujourd\u2019hui, je m\u2019efforce d\u2019y passer moins de temps et d\u2019avancer plus rapidement vers le pardon.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Joy F., Saskatchewan<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum, <\/em>f\u00e9vrier 2022<\/p>\n<p><em>\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Cet article peut \u00eatre reproduit sur le site Web de votre corps de service ou dans votre bulletin de nouvelles en pr\u00e9cisant\u00a0: Permission accord\u00e9e par la revue <em>The Forum<\/em>, Al\u2011Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":37,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[347,221],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-35772","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-le-lien","category-mon-perema-mere-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.6 - 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