{"id":21715,"date":"2019-01-11T15:41:56","date_gmt":"2019-01-11T20:41:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/?p=21715\/"},"modified":"2019-01-11T15:41:56","modified_gmt":"2019-01-11T20:41:56","slug":"cest-vraiment-un-mal-familial","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/cest-vraiment-un-mal-familial\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u2019est vraiment un mal familial !"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Il n\u2019est pas facile de traiter avec un buveur en phase active, surtout quand ce buveur dans ma vie est mon fr\u00e8re. Quand je lui rends visite, je souffre de voir comment son probl\u00e8me d\u2019alcool l\u2019affecte. J\u2019essaie toujours de communiquer avec lui, mais quand il est sobre, il m\u2019\u00e9vite la plupart du temps. Le seul\u00a0\u00a0 moment o\u00f9 il me parle, et il est tr\u00e8s bavard, c\u2019est quand il a bu. Le probl\u00e8me, c\u2019est que le lendemain, il se souvient \u00e0 peine de ce dont nous avons parl\u00e9 et \u00e9vite de nouveau toute conversation avec moi. Parfois, il passe par des p\u00e9riodes o\u00f9 il boit constamment pendant des jours et parfois des semaines.<\/p>\n<p>Cependant, j\u2019ai trouv\u00e9 de l\u2019espoir dans Al\u2011Anon. J\u2019ai appris que mon fr\u00e8re souffre d\u2019une maladie appel\u00e9e \u00ab alcoolisme \u00bb. Il m\u2019a \u00e9t\u00e9 tr\u00e8s utile de lire sur les caract\u00e9ristiques de cette maladie et de me rappeler que la fa\u00e7on dont il r\u00e9agit \u00e0 certaines choses est due \u00e0 sa maladie, et ne veut pas dire qu\u2019il ne m\u2019aime pas. J\u2019ai appris que je n\u2019ai pas caus\u00e9 sa maladie, que je ne peux la contr\u00f4ler ni n\u2019en connait la cure. J\u2019ai aussi appris qu\u2019aujourd\u2019hui, j\u2019ai des choix quant \u00e0 ma fa\u00e7on de r\u00e9agir \u00e0 son comportement \u2013 ivre ou sobre. Je peux soit le traiter avec respect, compr\u00e9hension et compassion, soit essayer de le contr\u00f4ler et de le r\u00e9primander. La premi\u00e8re option demande du courage et beaucoup de s\u00e9r\u00e9nit\u00e9. Cependant, je sais que si je r\u00e9agis de fa\u00e7on n\u00e9gative, t\u00f4t ou tard, j\u2019\u00e9prouverai du ressentiment, de la honte et de la culpabilit\u00e9.<\/p>\n<p>Dans Al\u2011Anon, j\u2019ai appris des slogans que je peux utiliser pour \u00e9tablir des limites avec mon fr\u00e8re d\u2019une mani\u00e8re ferme, mais aimante. Bien qu\u2019il soit difficile de me souvenir de ceux\u2011ci dans une confrontation ou une situation difficile, ils m\u2019aident \u00e0 \u00e9viter de r\u00e9agir \u00e0 son comportement. J\u2019ai aussi appris \u00e0 ne pas faire pour lui ce qu\u2019il doit faire pour lui\u2011m\u00eame, comme prendre soin de ses responsabilit\u00e9s financi\u00e8res. Cependant, quand je lui parle, je lui dis que je ne suis qu\u2019\u00e0 un appel t\u00e9l\u00e9phonique de distance au cas o\u00f9 il aurait besoin d\u2019une chose qui soit en mon pouvoir de lui donner. Cette limite est un fil d\u00e9licat que je dois faire attention de ne pas la franchir, et la maintenir est parfois difficile. Mais parler de mes sentiments avec les membres et \u00e9couter leurs exp\u00e9riences me donne du courage et m\u2019aide \u00e0 me rappeler que je ne suis pas seul.<\/p>\n<p>Quand je me concentre sur moi\u2011m\u00eame plut\u00f4t que sur mon fr\u00e8re, je peux voir que l\u2019alcoolisme est un mal familial parce qu\u2019il m\u2019a affect\u00e9. La bonne nouvelle, c\u2019est que je peux utiliser les outils qu\u2019Al\u2011Anon m\u2019a donn\u00e9 pour m\u2019am\u00e9liorer et me r\u00e9tablir. Maintenant je sais que mon fr\u00e8re arr\u00eatera de boire quand il sera pr\u00eat \u00e0 demander de l\u2019aide. En attendant, je peux d\u00e9cider de souffrir ou de rester positif quant \u00e0 mon r\u00e9tablissement et \u00e0 ma propre vie.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">Par Sergio Z.<br \/>\n<em>The Forum<\/em>, septembre 2018<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":36,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[347,220,225],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21715","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-le-lien","category-mon-compagnonma-compagne-alcoolique","category-mon-conjointma-conjointe-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>C\u2019est vraiment un mal familial ! 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