{"id":21713,"date":"2019-01-11T15:32:14","date_gmt":"2019-01-11T20:32:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/?p=21713\/"},"modified":"2021-09-28T16:52:57","modified_gmt":"2021-09-28T20:52:57","slug":"meme-face-a-la-colere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/meme-face-a-la-colere\/","title":{"rendered":"M\u00eame face \u00e0 la col\u00e8re\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Lorsque le pr\u00e9sident a annonc\u00e9 que le th\u00e8me de la r\u00e9union Al\u2011Anon du samedi matin \u00e9tait le contr\u00f4le, je me suis assise sur ma chaise et je me suis dit que je n\u2019avais pas besoin de partager ou m\u00eame de d\u2019\u00e9couter parce que le contr\u00f4le n\u2019\u00e9tait pas mon probl\u00e8me. N\u2019ai\u2011je pas toujours exauc\u00e9 tous les souhaits de mon mari ? Je n\u2019ai jamais essay\u00e9 de le contr\u00f4ler. Tout ce qu\u2019il voulait me convenait. Cela faisait d\u00e9j\u00e0 plusieurs ann\u00e9es que j\u2019avais cess\u00e9 de d\u00e9sirer quoi que ce soit. Cela n\u2019en valait tout simplement pas la peine dans mon mariage, parce que chaque fois que j\u2019essayais d\u2019exprimer ce que je voulais ou m\u00eame de parler d\u2019un livre que j\u2019\u00e9tais en train de lire ou d\u2019une histoire dr\u00f4le au travail, mon mari commen\u00e7ait \u00e0 me crier dessus, \u00e0 me rabaisser et \u00e0 me ridiculiser pour ce que je ressentais.<\/p>\n<p>Mais pour une raison que je ne comprenais pas, au d\u00e9but de cette r\u00e9union \u2013 la r\u00e9union \u00e0 laquelle je n\u2019avais pas pr\u00eat\u00e9 attention \u2013 j\u2019ai commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 pleurer de fa\u00e7on incontr\u00f4lable. Une amie \u00e9tait assise \u00e0 c\u00f4t\u00e9 de moi et me mettait des mouchoirs dans la main parce que je pleurais si fort. Dans les derni\u00e8res minutes avant la fin de la r\u00e9union, j\u2019ai enfin partag\u00e9 mon histoire. \u00c0 travers mes larmes, j\u2019ai dit que je ne comprenais pas ; que je n\u2019avais jamais essay\u00e9 de contr\u00f4ler mon mari. Il pouvait toujours faire ce qu\u2019il voulait. Je n\u2019avais jamais essay\u00e9 de lui faire faire quoi que ce soit. J\u2019\u00e9tais vraiment confuse !<\/p>\n<p>Apr\u00e8s la r\u00e9union, une autre amie est venue me serrer dans ses bras et m\u2019a dit quelque chose qui m\u2019a finalement aid\u00e9e \u00e0 clarifier ma confusion. Elle m\u2019a dit qu\u2019elle avait l\u2019habitude d\u2019essayer de calmer tout le monde \u00e0 la maison pour que son fils alcoolique adulte ne boive pas. Dans Al\u2011Anon, elle a r\u00e9alis\u00e9 \u00e0 quel point c\u2019\u00e9tait futile. Son fils allait boire \u2013 m\u00eame si la maison \u00e9tait paisible \u2013 parce qu\u2019il \u00e9tait alcoolique. J\u2019ai fini par comprendre que j\u2019avais fait la m\u00eame chose dans mon mariage \u2013 essayer de contr\u00f4ler la col\u00e8re de mon mari en prenant soin de toujours \u00eatre d\u2019accord avec lui et en ne d\u00e9sirant jamais rien pour moi\u2011m\u00eame. J\u2019ai continu\u00e9 ainsi, en d\u00e9pit de sa consommation d\u2019alcool et de sa col\u00e8re qui s\u2019\u00e9taient aggrav\u00e9es au fil des ans. J\u2019ai lentement commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 cesser de vivre dans la peur de la r\u00e9action de mon mari. Je ne pouvais pas plus contr\u00f4ler sa col\u00e8re que je ne pouvais contr\u00f4ler sa consommation d\u2019alcool. J\u2019ai appris \u00e0 faire ce qui \u00e9tait bon pour moi.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">Par Mary M., Idaho<br \/>\n<em>The Forum<\/em>, octobre 2018<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":36,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[347,220,225],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21713","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-le-lien","category-mon-compagnonma-compagne-alcoolique","category-mon-conjointma-conjointe-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>M\u00eame face \u00e0 la col\u00e8re\u2026 - Al-Anon Family Groups<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Je ne pouvais pas plus contr\u00f4ler sa col\u00e8re que je ne pouvais contr\u00f4ler sa consommation d\u2019alcool. 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