{"id":25441,"date":"2019-07-03T15:08:42","date_gmt":"2019-07-03T19:08:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/?p=25441"},"modified":"2020-06-24T13:54:05","modified_gmt":"2020-06-24T17:54:05","slug":"creia-que-estaba-ayudando","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.al-anon.org\/es\/blog\/creia-que-estaba-ayudando\/","title":{"rendered":"Cre\u00eda que estaba ayudando"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Llegu\u00e9 a Al\u2011Anon porque ten\u00eda un hijo alcoh\u00f3lico. Me sent\u00eda abatido porque mi hijo estaba en problemas, y tambi\u00e9n me sent\u00eda frustrado porque tal parec\u00eda que no pod\u00eda hacer nada al respecto. Adem\u00e1s, ten\u00eda coraje porque \u00e9l ment\u00eda y se aprovechaba de m\u00ed. Como padre, yo me ve\u00eda como la persona que ten\u00eda que arreglarlo a \u00e9l. Prove\u00eda sabidur\u00eda, orientaci\u00f3n y consejo \u2014much\u00edsimos consejos. Yo minimizaba los problemas con humor, le daba dinero y le mostraba mi desaprobaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Esto result\u00f3 en que mis acciones pusieran obst\u00e1culos en su camino hacia la recuperaci\u00f3n, porque mis acciones no le proveyeron espacio para respirar, ni oportunidades para ayudarse a s\u00ed mismo y reconstruir su autoestima. Cada vez que se daba la vuelta, yo estaba ah\u00ed para ayudarlo, o al menos as\u00ed pensaba, ofreci\u00e9ndole lo que yo cre\u00eda que era una mejor manera de hacer las cosas. Siempre ten\u00edamos conversaciones telef\u00f3nicas muy largas, que consist\u00edan en que \u00e9l me contara sus problemas y yo le diera consejos porque sab\u00eda que, si tan solo me escuchara, todo estar\u00eda bien. En realidad, mis consejos, mi dinero y mi desaprobaci\u00f3n no hicieron m\u00e1s que perjudicarlo. De hecho, estaba dici\u00e9ndole que \u00e9l no ten\u00eda las destrezas necesarias para tomar sus propias decisiones. Lo estaba humillando en vez de ayudarlo.<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, al usar los instrumentos que aprend\u00ed en las reuniones de Al\u2011Anon, cambi\u00e9 el curso de nuestras conversaciones. En vez de darle consejos, le daba empat\u00eda. En vez de decirle qu\u00e9 hacer, le dec\u00eda que lamentaba escuchar acerca de su problema m\u00e1s reciente y dejaba que lo resolviera por s\u00ed mismo. Entonces ocurri\u00f3 algo maravilloso. Tras tener estas conversaciones durante varias semanas, me dijo: \u00ab\u00bfSabes? Verdaderamente disfruto estas conversaciones que hemos tenido \u00faltimamente. Significan mucho para m\u00ed\u00bb. M\u00e1s o menos por esas fechas, \u00e9l comenz\u00f3 a trabajar su propio programa de recuperaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Mi nuevo enfoque no provoc\u00f3 que \u00e9l se recuperara, y ni siquiera lo ayud\u00f3 a que se recuperara, pero s\u00ed quit\u00f3 del medio algunos obst\u00e1culos que yo hab\u00eda puesto en su camino. En esencia, mi libreto hab\u00eda cambiado y, por consiguiente, nuestra relaci\u00f3n cambi\u00f3. A trav\u00e9s de este programa aprend\u00ed que, si cuido de m\u00ed y me trato con respeto, entonces estar\u00e9 en mejores condiciones para ayudar a mi hijo de una manera que reconozca que hay una persona real, una persona amorosa, dentro de mi hijo alcoh\u00f3lico. Me di cuenta, finalmente, de que \u00e9l es un adulto y, por lo tanto, tiene derecho a resolver sus propios problemas y a vivir su propia vida. Como resultado, adem\u00e1s de ser mi hijo, se convirti\u00f3 nuevamente en un amigo cercano y querido.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Por Frank V., Nueva York<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum<\/em>, marzo de 2019<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":37,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[348,208],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-25441","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-en-accion","category-para-hijos-alcoholicos"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - 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